Constant negativity about everything, always wanting to-be more negative than anyone else,
But you know what? She thinks she is the victim of bad things happening in the world - she herself is NOT a negative person!
No point in telling her how lucky she's been in life as she will just tell you more of the bad things that have happened toher, to convince you!!
Maybe find a parable to help her understand?
Better to agree with her. Then when she knows you understand, you can change the subject to something happier. That is the trick.
Someone who complains all the time is someone who finds life full of problems. That is her character and you won't change it. She wants to share, but isn't looking for solutions. She wants you to agree - then she'll feel better.
Of course, sometimes it is a genuine complaint. So then, you can genuinely sympathise and - because it is real - you can very briefly offer a real-world solution.
But you know what? She thinks she is the victim of bad things happening in the world - she herself is NOT a negative person!
No point in telling her how lucky she's been in life as she will just tell you more of the bad things that have happened toher, to convince you!!
Maybe find a parable to help her understand?
Better to agree with her. Then when she knows you understand, you can change the subject to something happier. That is the trick.
Someone who complains all the time is someone who finds life full of problems. That is her character and you won't change it. She wants to share, but isn't looking for solutions. She wants you to agree - then she'll feel better.
Of course, sometimes it is a genuine complaint. So then, you can genuinely sympathise and - because it is real - you can very briefly offer a real-world solution.
0 comments:
Post a Comment
Keep it clean, keep it lean